What was it like to see a loved one die before your eyes?

What was it like to see a loved one die before your eyes? A question asked by Andre F.

New Q & A iconThanks for your question.

I can’t really answer this question directly for you – regarding seeing a loved one die “before your eyes.”

Even so I can chip in on “what was it like” for a loved one to die.

I’ve had three members of my immediate family die, at different times. These included my parents and one of my sisters. I wasn’t at their side when any of them died.

Their deaths affected me in different ways. The toughest was my mother’s passing. The last time I saw her, not long before she died, it was clear she knew she would be going soon.

She actually chose the moment to go when no one was around – I truly get that. I learnt of her death (by phonecall) five minutes before I had to teach a class. I went through with the teaching, if more than a little distracted. 

When my father died, many years before, I arranged to get involved with back-filling the grave. It was something I wanted to do. The gravedigger knew him and, when the ceremony was over and everyone had departed, we were able to get on with the job, and talk a bit about him. It felt good.

From my perspective it is the loss of physical contact that has been most difficult to deal with. Time does heal though. 

Let me add that I firmly believe that I will meet up with them again. Death is only the physical body falling away.

I hope this helps.

Associated links:

Get over the sudden death of a parent
The hardest truth in life
Why take so long to get over death of dear one
Get over fear of death
Book: Life and Death: Making Sense of It

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this post are entirely the opinion of the author, Francis O’Neill. No guarantee is given that the information provided is correct, complete, and/or up-to-date.


Category: Death & Dying
Tags: Death of family members, See a loved one die before your eyes, Spiritual Q & A

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